Dating and moving away
And I think we also would not give each other the opportunity to look around and see if there is someone more suitable, which as we are both around 30, is something that becomes increasingly important.
We've agreed to keep in touch - look, if we are meant to be together long term, I guess that will happen, but clinging onto something and trying to leave a gap in your life for the other person is likely to lead to misery. QUOTE=Giraffe]If you call/visit after she moves, 1.
When you snatch away someone's entire support system and put them in a strange place, they will start acting in ways that you previously would have considered out-of-character. If she doesn't find someone special in the new location pretty quickly, your relationship will probably not end but will rather head into uncharted waters. Tell her that she can call you if she needs someone to talk to, but don't initiate any calls.
I don't think you'll really know how to proceed until she has been gone for about 6 weeks. Also, don't underestimate her ability to adapt to her new surroundings.
You can text constantly, email, have regular video dates, and make fairly frequent visits back and forth.
But, to eventually get to your perfect ending in the same ZIP code, someone’s got to make a move.
And I think more so for her for a few reasons: (1) she got more invested than she expected, especially in so short of a time; (2) she is moving away from her friends and support system; and (3) she will be in a new environment and a new job in a new city, etc. Would that make the relationship drag on in a miserable, slow-death kind of way? More painful in the short-term, but helping her/us get past it sooner?
My comment above was meant to say just keep on keeping on. good luck just Ever hear of the the film, "Same Time, Next Year"?
Make a date for next February 14th, in either location.
I don't know which way is better in your case, but that is what can happen.
You know guys this kind of thing happens in everyones life. I still sometimes think about some old girlfriends. Some of them ought to hate me because I was a real asshole to them.